As the OP describes them as tattered, I wonder if they are just going into molt. Mine look tattered, then like they have been on a 3 day tear, and are slinking back home, with tufts...then they molt.
If it is just molt, the OP is blaming the rooster unnecessarily. They will heal up on their...
Send him to her, what she does with him is none of your business, he will then be her bird.
When one owns chickens, you have to look at the flock, and not so much individual birds. This bird is not working out in your flock or really with you. The birds he is being hard on don't deserve this...
I really don't think roosters "think'. I think they just are. I don't try and train mine. I really think the way you get the best rooster, is you don't keep a less than perfect one. Perfect is your own personal definition.
I would be constantly aware of him, as he ages - hormones tend to drop...
I find that pulling hens out causes more problems than it solves. But I have been lucky in that I really have only needed to do so once, and that bird was sick, and I culled her.
It is not ideal, and you may loose a few birds. I do think you need to re-evaluate. Sell 15-20 laying hens at $10-15 dollars a piece and then use that money to update your systems. A lot of people on here, have a camera system to watch there birds, it might be worthwhile. As long as the set up...
This is cock fighting. Personally I would cull him. It is very common for the low bird to be the meanest when new birds come into the flock.
The reality of roosters is that today’s behavior is no indication of tomorrow’s but once they become violent that tend to just keep increasing. I agree...
They can do fine together, but they might not. Do talk to your daughter about that possibility. And have a plan besides wishing they would just get a long. Sometimes chickens make great pets, but somethings they don't. If you are matter of fact about it, it will help your daughter be matter of...
Block off the favored nest. Put two fake eggs in the other nests. They will complain, but they will spread out ... for a while!
Last summer, I almost caved, I was going to tear out wooden nests that have worked perfectly fine for decades because they would make a nest on the floor and all lay...
I agreee with a lot of what you say. However, you did leave out (IMO) two rather important part os having roosters, space and interactions with hens.
Again IMO, people that tend to have consistently good luck with roosters tend to have very large flocks - and very large spaces to keep them...
You know, that might just be best. Sometimes there is a bird that just does not fit, and people anguish over letting them go, but if they do, they get peace in the flock.
Contact your local county extension office asking for 4-H clubs or poultry clubs. Consider posting at the feed store.
Integrating chickens tends to be very hard, when you are adding less to more, young to old. As in adding 2 pre laying pullets to an established flock of eight 4year old hens...
Really with you and the neighbor being so close, you could consider that one flock, in different pens. As you get along well, I would ask her to let you have 2 hens + Rooster, until spring. That way you can add him right now. The thing is, chicks really don't make much difference in the flock...
Once in a while you get a flock master. The only problem is it rather ruins your tolerance for a less than perfect rooster.
Do know, that todays behavior does not indicate next weeks...always beware that he is an intact male. Be extra vigilant around children, but generally speaking, I think...