One of the boys I hatched last year doesn't really crow, and he is the sweetest thing. I'm sure some time with nice roosters can change his thoughts on roosters.
Its hard to tell from the pictures, but you saying the tail are growing like so I would agree with you their genders (I sex my chicks by their tails)
If your husband is afraid of they guys, try handling them a lot as chicks. I have had 7 roosters and only one was aggressive. One of the ones I...