Pet Peeves

[samanthaoverton]

There is unfortunately a long legacy of misogyny in women's health care. One of the reasons I got out of it myself. I couldn't stand the politics.

I do agree with you...certain male doctors are just rude to female patients. My mother also had to have hysterectomy. The doctor performed the surgery and cut himself. Upon waking my mother had no pain medication because I assume he was running tests etc to see if she had anything. An angel/nurse told my mother..honey you have rights. This angel pushed for my mom to get pain medication..she made sure all the paperwork was done..she got my mother some pain medication. I don't know this nurse nor have I met her but I would hug her and thank her for her compassion. Something a doctor should have done. I can tell other lovely stories of military medical personnel...anyone who has been in the military knows. My father did his 20 years and the medical treatment ( on base) for the families of troops is appalling. They are incompetent at best. Their practices would not fly in good hospitals.

 

[Lemon-Drop]

Having an unpleasant doctor visits are never fun.

Few months back my hubby was in a head on collision. Miraculously he only suffered from a concussion ( it could have been A LOT worse). With his concussion, a massive headache and puking everywhere he went to the hospital. We live in a small town so there is only one hospital and a clinic. He waited in the emergency room 4 HOURS! Then waited 2 more hours in the private room for him to only be seen for a total of 20 mins. They told him in a jovial and lofty attitude that he most likely had a concussion and go home. Even though we begged the nurse and doctor to scan his arm because it caused him terribly pain. They refused to look at it. Though it was not broken (could've been for all we known at the time) it was unprofessional for them not to least look at it or address it after multiple complaints about it.

Now at the clinic... (WARNING slightly TMI) few months before my hubby's accident I went to the clinic because I thought I was having a miscarriage. Though all the pregnancy tests I took were neg. but I had early pregnancy signs then those went away after I bled for 19 days. Here I am at the "specialist" explaining what I experienced and what was currently going on. I took a bunch of blood tests and the doctor said he would get back to me that evening. Well 2 days later I called the doctor because he did not get back to me. I received bad news but he offended me (which takes A LOT to do so) by giving a scenario if I cheated on my husband! Then to top it off, in the doctor notes he made me sound like I was delusional to think I was pregnant and having maybe miscarriage.

I never researched hospital or clinic reviews but HOLY GUACAMOLE out of hundreds of reviews both the local hospital and clinic had received 80% 1 stars!

Oh my goodness, that's awful!

 

[BigBlueHen53]

How incredibly unprofessional..he could have had his licensed pulled for this unprofessional behavior. He should have a nurse not your sister to assist. The hospital alone could release him because of this behavior and he should have given you something to make you comfortable. I've taken a few minor medical courses and I hate seeing patients rights stomped on. Patients actually have a patients bill of rights. You have the right to refuse any treatment. They can't turn you away for treatment either. Most people are not informed of these rights..

When filling out paperwork, READ what you are signing!!! There is a page I am often expected to sign that says I have read and have RECEIVED their privacy statement, but there is no such privacy statement in the packet. I don't sign it. I go back to the window and say, Sorry, can't sign this one until you actually give me the privacy statement. At one dr office they actually had to dig one up and xerox me a copy. I do not sign anything that is not true. It becomes a legal document when you put your signature on it, it is a sworn statement that will hold up in court. If it's not true, it's perjury.

 

[Bonkerelli]

Spam, trolls and just plain Irritating people.

I wish the was an ignore button in reality.

 

[DavidReaves]

And a pineapple...

I may never resist the pineapple again.

The trick for having good fresh pineapple is to leave it on the cabinet to ripen-- usually a week, maybe more. The problem (and a pet peeve) is that fresh pineapple in the store is invariably very green.

 

[DavidReaves]

A BIG pet peeve of mine is when a stranger touches your back or shoulder randomly as they pass by you in a tight area. Mainly in a cramped grocery store isles or a sitting at table in a restaurant. If I do not know you.. do not touch me!

Not justifying, but just commenting: Is it possible that the gentle touch in close quarters is to acknowledge your presence? Sort of I'm here in this tight space, but I'm not coming any closer? Sort of a way to maintain some distance even though uncomfortably close?

 

[DavidReaves]

My husband is a veteran and he calls men sir and ladies ma'am. I found when my husband says it to men that came from a military background more than half get angry. But if it's a woman 99% take no offense.

Interesting, I'm from a military background and the south. I have not seen the same level of offense from men. Though I can see it, somewhat, if one is near a military base. After all, the normal response from any sergeant to an enlisted that calls them "Sir" is "Sir!, What do you mean, Sir? I work for a living." Because, of course, commissioned officers do no work.

 

[Battlepants]

I wish the was an ignore button in reality.

Say "Did I ask you?" to remind them that you did not, in fact, ask them. Repeat as needed until they leave.

 

[DavidReaves]

I use some abbreviations (e.g., "IIRC", and of course "e.g." and "i.e." lol), but I think those are fairly common ones. I've also been confused by ones that are less common.

Very early English teacher taught me that one should always use the full set of words followed by the parenthetical abbreviation. Thereafter, it was permissible to abbreviate that phrase. Over the past 20 years or so I've started using abbreviations after I've used the phrase, but I've given over the parenthetical explanation.

FWIW, YMMV, after all YOLO. IRL I also prefer the Oxford comma.

 

[DavidReaves]

And if you think about it, it really isn't that irrational for one to judge their performance as being relatively close to the mean if they don't have much else to go off of when rendering an estimate. But I think there's also some bias visible with how people tended to make estimates at least slightly above the mean.

The other factor that sometimes causes problems is that those that are around the mean in some particular area of expertise often assume that others have that same level of competence. I encountered that issue as a supervisor in technical support. Sometimes, the customer wasn't the issue, the problem was a technician that didn't understand the topic when you thought they would.