Sparrow's Chat Thread

[TesoroSena]

I tell my mom everything and it works perfectly. I trust her a lot and she trusts me a lot

thats awesome.

 

[Noraaaaa]

Im not saying they had to be but they also didn't have to do stuff like post a video of me playing guitar on a public platform after i repeatedly asked them not too and it took me weeks to trust them to even do it in front of them.

that sucks.

 

[TesoroSena]

that sucks.

See why i want my kids to trust me so much

 

[Noraaaaa]

going through phones is not nessisary. its 99 percent of the time not going to be needed. it just comes down to catching that one thing that's bad if it ever comes up. you only need to look 1x a year. but many people have problems. even kids who have a good life and have healthy relationships. trust me-i have a ex fried that did this

pls red this bc i dont wanna argee anymore

 

[Noraaaaa]

See why i want my kids to trust me so much

they should.

pls red this bc i dont wanna argee anymore

going through phones is not nessisary. its 99 percent of the time not going to be needed. it just comes down to catching that one thing that's bad if it ever comes up. you only need to look 1x a year. but many people have problems. even kids who have a good life and have healthy relationships. trust me-i have a ex fried that did this

 

[Noraaaaa]

tes Logan, shrek, sparrow are reading all of this and just staying quiet

 

[TesoroSena]

they should.

I already read it lol and i still disagree. if you're trying to do a 'agree to disagree' thing okay! thats not it tho

 

[ShrekDawg]

tes Logan, shrek, sparrow are reading all of this and just staying quiet

Nothing to add lmaooo

 

[Noraaaaa]

I already read it lol and i still disagree. if you're trying to do a 'agree to disagree' thing okay! thats not it tho

okay well

Spoiler: this is a artice

Noraaaaa said:

• Adolescents have fewer health risks when their parents know what is going on in their children's lives.
• 86% of youth reported that their parents usually or always know whom they are with and their whereabouts.
• Parental monitoring can reduce teens' sexual risks, reduce substance use, and result in positive mental health.

Overview​

The teen years are a time of rapid growth, exploration, and risk-taking. Taking risks allows young people to test their skills and abilities and discover who they are.
But some risks can have harmful and long-lasting effects on teens' health and well-being. These risks include smoking, using drugs, drinking and driving, and having unprotected sex.

Fast facts​

Parents are a powerful influence in their teens' lives. Parents can make a habit of doing the following to monitor their teens' activities and behavior:

• Knowing what they are doing, whom they are with, and where they are.
• Setting clear expectations for behavior.
• Having regular check-ins to be sure these expectations are being met.

And by taking these steps, parents can reduce their teens' risks for injury, pregnancy, and drug, alcohol, and cigarette use.

• 86% of students report that their parents usually or always knew where they were and who they were with.
• Parental monitoring is associated with students experiencing fewer sexual risks, less substance use, and better mental health.

Parental monitoring​

Parental monitoring includes:

1. Expectations for their teens' behavior.
2. Actions to keep track of their teens.
3. Ways of responding when their teens break the rules.

You are using parental monitoring when you ask your teen​

• Where will you be?
• Whom will you be with?
• When will you be home?

You are also monitoring when you​

• Check in with your teens by phone.
• Get to know their friends and their parents.
• Talk with your teens about how they spend time or whether they are making safe choices.
• Set and enforce rules for your teens' behavior by clearly explaining the rules and consequences. Follow through with appropriate consequences when the rules are broken.

Monitoring should start in early childhood and continue throughout the teen years, evolving as children grow and mature.
As children develop into teenagers, adults might view them as more independent and less in need of monitoring. But consistent monitoring during teen years is critical—teens' desire for independence can bring opportunities for unhealthy or unsafe behaviors.

It makes a difference​

Research shows that when parents use effective monitoring, teens are less likely to make poor decisions. Specifically, teens are less likely to have sex at an early age, smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, be physically aggressive, or skip school.
Clear communication about your expectations is especially important. Research shows that teens who believe their parents disapprove of risky behaviors are less likely to choose those behaviors.

What parents can do to monitor their teens effectively​

The following are some steps you can take to monitor your teens and help protect them from risky health behaviors and experiences:

• Talk with your teens about your rules and expectations, and explain the consequences for breaking the rules.
• Talk and listen to your teens often about how they feel and what they are thinking.
• Know your teens' friends.
• Talk with your teens about their plans with friends, what they are doing after school, and where they will be going.
• Set expectations for when your teens will come home. Let them know you expect a call if they are going to be late.
• Ask whether an adult will be present when your teens are visiting friends' homes.
• Get to know who your teens are dating.
• Get to know the parents of your teens' friends.
• Talk with your relatives, your neighbors, your teens' teachers, and other adults who know your teens. Ask these adults to share what they observe about your teens' behaviors, moods, or friends.
• Watch how your teens spend money.
• Keep track of how your teens spend time online, and talk about using the Internet safely.
• Pay attention to your teens' mood and behavior at home, and discuss any concerns you might have.
• If your teens do break a rule, enforce the consequences fairly and consistently.
• Make sure your teens know how to contact you at all times.

How parents can be successful at monitoring their teens​

Parental monitoring works best when parents have open and caring relationships with their teens. Teens are more willing to talk to their parents if they think their parents:

• Can be trusted.
• Have useful advice.
• Are open and available to listen and talk.

Teens who are satisfied with their relationships with their parents tend to be more willing to follow the rules.

 

[Noraaaaa]

Nothing to add lmaooo

well im done