Many people here are wise, and have advice. So I thought I would put it out there.
My B-I-L is a narcissist. I know people throw that word around. But he is. He is 63, 5'7'' very single, bald and over weight, drinks, Only likes 24 year olds, (not that he gets to date them.) He is materialistic, not successful financially, because he tries to only work a few hrs a week. And he says he is bored of his work. He is also is know-it-all, who his mother is his only friend. We blocked his calls and gray rocked him because if you talk with him on the phone he doesn't let you get a word in edge wise, and he just brags about himself. If you disagree with him in anyway, he goes into a rage.
On to the M-I-L, she enables him, because he has never been married and has no friends, and because he lives near by and she is too old to drive. Even so she does limit herself, because she doesn't like him over ALL the time either.
My DH is hesitant to tell his mom of any success he has because she always says, "I wish you could get, X into your business, because he needs to make more money and is bored." Not acknowledging my DH success, but how can I advance the enabled one?
The B-I-L is also has a bad memory and his ego is so big, and he is untrainable because he cannot retain information because of ADD, or just the drinking.
I told my DH to say, if his mother wants the B-I-L to get into his business to just say "It is not like a suit, one-size-fits-all. business."
What other advice do you guys have?
My B-I-L is a narcissist. I know people throw that word around. But he is. He is 63, 5'7'' very single, bald and over weight, drinks, Only likes 24 year olds, (not that he gets to date them.) He is materialistic, not successful financially, because he tries to only work a few hrs a week. And he says he is bored of his work. He is also is know-it-all, who his mother is his only friend. We blocked his calls and gray rocked him because if you talk with him on the phone he doesn't let you get a word in edge wise, and he just brags about himself. If you disagree with him in anyway, he goes into a rage.
On to the M-I-L, she enables him, because he has never been married and has no friends, and because he lives near by and she is too old to drive. Even so she does limit herself, because she doesn't like him over ALL the time either.
My DH is hesitant to tell his mom of any success he has because she always says, "I wish you could get, X into your business, because he needs to make more money and is bored." Not acknowledging my DH success, but how can I advance the enabled one?
The B-I-L is also has a bad memory and his ego is so big, and he is untrainable because he cannot retain information because of ADD, or just the drinking.
I told my DH to say, if his mother wants the B-I-L to get into his business to just say "It is not like a suit, one-size-fits-all. business."
What other advice do you guys have?
smile. I agree with the post from Sally PB , I always tell people to state facts not emotions. Facts are hard to argue with. ( Learned that one the hard way)
