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Well... That hasn't been my experience. These ones have expressed a preference and gratitude for it. All the veg*ns I keep close enough to me to attend (which I think between them and the lactose free is maybe 4-5 people, so not a lot but still like 1/5th of the people that show up) are excited for what seems like "real" holiday food instead of just a pile of side dishes. (Additionally, none of them are appalled at us serving meat, they just chose to abstain from it. Mostly it seems like a personally-grossed-out by eating this formerly living thing... thing. Or an ecological issue.)
I sometimes hear things like "Holidays are a bummer cause I never have anything to eat but sides and desserts" and "last year they put cream in the mashed potatoes and pork in the bean casserole and cooked the carrots with the turkey, so I just spent the night eating bread, salad and cranberries". Stuff like that. Not verbatim but you get the idea. Like before I mentioned my sister who flipped out because she had real, actual, fancy "holiday food" like mom used to make and how she never even got that at home during the holidays cause her family (son and now ex husband) weren't vegetarian. And she usually bought herself some sort of tofurkey loaf and just ate it and felt left out because it wasn't very good. And now she's a single mom with no time on her hands so it's the same.
I could just never bring myself to ask them to show up for an event themed around fancy food and generosity and NOT produce something high quality. It's very... visceral. I feel bad for them and I love them and I want them to have the same sort of loving holiday experience the others get.
I was very disappointed with what I made last year even. It was OK, but it wasn't up to standard and as good as the meat entree and most of the leftovers didn't even get eaten cause we were disappointed in it. So I'm throwing darts at the wall this year to see what sticks and feels good.
Partner and I have decided to test the wellington loaf sometime in the next month before serving it at Yule so we can make sure we have our altered recipe down pat.
I sometimes hear things like "Holidays are a bummer cause I never have anything to eat but sides and desserts" and "last year they put cream in the mashed potatoes and pork in the bean casserole and cooked the carrots with the turkey, so I just spent the night eating bread, salad and cranberries". Stuff like that. Not verbatim but you get the idea. Like before I mentioned my sister who flipped out because she had real, actual, fancy "holiday food" like mom used to make and how she never even got that at home during the holidays cause her family (son and now ex husband) weren't vegetarian. And she usually bought herself some sort of tofurkey loaf and just ate it and felt left out because it wasn't very good. And now she's a single mom with no time on her hands so it's the same.
I could just never bring myself to ask them to show up for an event themed around fancy food and generosity and NOT produce something high quality. It's very... visceral. I feel bad for them and I love them and I want them to have the same sort of loving holiday experience the others get.
I was very disappointed with what I made last year even. It was OK, but it wasn't up to standard and as good as the meat entree and most of the leftovers didn't even get eaten cause we were disappointed in it. So I'm throwing darts at the wall this year to see what sticks and feels good.
Partner and I have decided to test the wellington loaf sometime in the next month before serving it at Yule so we can make sure we have our altered recipe down pat.
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