Thought about posting about this for a loooong time

[Sonoran Silkies]

You say you've made calls to CPS; I assume these are calls reporting incidents of neglect and drug use?

How about a different call where you actually go in and have an appointment with one of the supervisors and discuss the situation as a whole, focusing on getting information (rather than giving it) about how to help this child and your daughter. Find out the criteria they use for pulling kids from parents and also for placing them.

Since Sara lives with you, would you formally agree to support her by providing food and lodging for her and the child if she were awarded custody? I would think this would increase the odds of her being given custody.

You might also find a local organization (so that they are familiar with the pertinent laws) that helps abused women and children, and see if they have advice to offer or can help with legal assistance.

 

[michelle1017]

All I can say is document, document, document!

 

[debilorrah]

Thanks everyone! There is alot of good information here. Now if Sara will just use it.

 

[Jamsoundsgood]

Perhaps you could even suggest to Sara that she take a course to become a foster parent. Then it would even tip the balance more in her favor, and she would become more familiar with the system as well. Not to mention just a better educated, well-rounded adult! Never a bad thing.

 

[joebryant]

Stay out of it. There's nothing that you can do. If Sara's off in dream world thinking she can raise the child when she has no job... This child needs to be taken from the mother and put in protective services of the court.

 

[maplesky7]

If she is serious than she has to step up.

Get a job...even working at Mc'd's can offer one enough money to rent a place and then she will qualify for state aid as well.

She can do it. Just keep on telling her she can and giving her the encouragement.

And if she doesn't feel like she can than as hard as it is, it is time to let him go to someone who can take care of him.

hugs,
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[debilorrah]

Joe - all I have really been doing is advising her. SHE called CPS, not us. Just to clarify. The thing is that I care about ALL these kids. Yes she is lazy. Yes that child needs a loving home. NO I do not want another child. The ball is in her court now.